The life of a Pagan Socialite!
by arayla 
Two snakes this one is for you!
Ahhhhh the life of a pagan socialite!
We pagans pride ourselves in being a diverse group. That we are! If there were paper degrees to earn based on the pagan experience there would be a few to be gotten from being a pagan socialite! From four years being active in the pagan community you could earn your bachelors in psychology, sociology, crafting, management and of course mead among many other things. Well, personally I believe a degree in mead could be very useful.
Getting used to the pagan community could cause a lot of mental turmoil. You have to become a mind reader at times to decipher what is going on. And when dealing with the likes of psychics and natural empaths, well it can be hard to figure out what’s up. THEN - Just when you think you have it down pat what is acceptable and what is not you run into another group with an entirely different demeanor and “set of rules”. Some things can leave even an “experienced” pagan confused as to what people are thinking or how to react.
It starts with the Internet. It isn’t like you can just go to the club, put on your pagan nametag and find others out there that have those unique views on religion. No, if you crave the contact of those other like-minded then it usually start with an online search. You do the Google thing and if you add Michigan to the search you’re likely to come up with either one of Robin or Gordon’s sites, throw a search of Witchvox in for good measure and your on your way to being one socially endowed pagan. Great, ya hit pay dirt you think! Here is where it starts! Yea!
It’s great how far we have come with online socializing. But there is no body language to convey what exactly is meant in the world of the typed. What about when those slippery smilies come sneaking in? Add it to pagan lingo and your screwed. What exactly is meant by “Perfect love and Perfect Trust” when it is typed? When someone is talking about his or her experiences is because they see it as a requirement that you follow their same path or is it because they are simply sharing? And ya just can’t beat the drama that inevitably some people seem to feed off of.
You met some people online and the next step follows naturally. Time to step out of the life of the solitaire and start rubbing elbows! So you meet Silverstar-Goldenfire-Moon-Wind-Earthwalker. Cool name you think. For a while you chat online getting to know Silver. She seems cool. She explains a lot of the confusing pagan lingo and what differences are between paths. After a while you ask for a picture exchange. She is actually a he. But ummm you remember him talking about past boyfriends. So he is gay, no big deal. But the whole time you’re thinking of Silver as a she. Oooops. You’re quite embarrassed but you can go on because he is really cool and it was your mistake anyhow.
You meet Silver out at a ritual at his place. It is going good except for the fact that you cannot for the life of you remember his actual name. He remembers yours and talks about the importantance of a names so you can’t very well ask can you? You wait – ok there you got it. His name is Kelly. That’s the other reason you thought he was a she. Ok, it’s going good. Ritual time! People are getting naked. Ummmm-eeeer. Oh well, it doesn’t seem as strange as you thought it would – When in Rome! The mead is poured and the ritual goes great. People feast after and there is more mead. Then another bottle is opened. Hmmmm cool. All in all it’s a great night and fun was had.
You continue to hook up with other pagans because this is fun and everyone is great! This next deal is different. Still seems cool, but different somehow. You go to your next ritual, making it a point to remember the hostesses name perfectly this time. You bring the mead cuz you find out just how cool a mead night can be. Ritual time!
You - “I’ll pour the mead, where’s the chalice?”
Not you - “We don’t drink here.”
You - “Oh, ummm sorry.”
Not you - “Oh my god, are you taking off your pants?”
You - “Umm, well, I just thought. Ummm”
But all is not lost. You have a good laugh over it and everything is discussed logically and the night is winds up worth it. All’s well that ends well.
I won’t even go on about what happens when this poor pagan walks into the house with Slayer music blaring, complete with Kiss costume answering the door.
But you win some and you loose some – 2 out of 3 aren’t bad.
Yes, a diverse group we are! Sometimes you find people that you click with right away and know there is a connection. Some people you meet online and chat, chat, chat then in person the most logical thing you can say is “have the time?” Some people make ya squirm and you can’t wait to bolt from their company. No matter what you can’t really claim there is a dull moment!
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